Things were not always going well for me. I was always emotionally stuck,full of anxiety and riddled with physical ailments, not to mention broke and never able to achieve the abundance of love & money ‘I knew I deserved’. I was constantly in my head, because I constantly tried to escape the emotional trauma stuck in my body and heart, so it was less painful to stay in my intellect. ( Yes, poor intellectuals… it is true) My thinking would run 24/7. I literally used to think so much that there were times I would not sleep all night because my mind would be so active. I lived in constant hyper vigilance never having inner peace. Depression would come and go, addictions would come and go. I would systematically sabotage my relationships if I finally got the partner I wanted, that was when I was not chasing unsuitable partners/ love interests. I was a mess.
On our journey of wholeness, our healing, there are 4 main stages we have to go through in order to resolve our ‘Core Life Issue’ issue. I deliberately say ‘issue’ singular because I have found that no matter what we are trying to deal with, whether it is dysfunctional relationship patterns, or lack of relationships. Whether it is family issues, life purpose issues, money issues, health issues, depression issues, anxiety issues, physical health issues…whatever the issue is, it actually ALL stems from your ‘Core Wounding’ or two in some cases.
The universe actually made it rather simple for us, our poor minds have made it complicated and we segregate the areas of our lives when in fact all the different areas of our lives will be symptoms/ expressions of the one thing that runs us and uses up our lives – our unconscious core beliefs. We are either driven by ‘I am not good enough, I am bad, I am not wanted, There is something wrong with me, I am not good enough as a boy for mum, or as a girl for dad’ and the list goes on. But behind all of these is the experience/mis-interpretation that we are not being loved, and all these core beliefs are what we decided to rationalize in our mind why we were not experiencing our parents love… some are more than rationalizations and were things we were told over and over such as ‘You are a naughty/ bad boy’ or some were things we psychically picked up on ‘I wish I had a son, not another daughter’ if your dad was inclined that way or ‘I wish I had a girl after my 1st boy’ as my mum thought to herself… we know what goes through our parents mind when we are really young. The job of the therapist/ healer/ facilitator is to help you become aware of this unconscious part of your thinking process – that governs 98% of your decision making on an unconscious level AND MOST IMPORTANTLY, help you discharge the emotional pain that keeps that part of your thought process alive and running the show. The emotional energy literally keeps it alive and in charge of your reality…The painful emotions associated with these core beliefs and not experiencing love issue is the equivalent of an electro magnetic energy charge that has to be discharged through crying/wailing it out to discharge the grief aspect, screaming/punching/kicking it out to discharge the anger aspect and shaking in fear & terror to discharge the fear aspect. If you do not go through this and only uncover the belief aspect and then ‘decide to move on, forgive yourself and your parents’ you are in ‘la la land’ and will wonder why down the road you are still experiencing suffering, struggle and unnecessary stress in life.
If you are undertaking a therapy that does not have as a goal the discharging/ expression from the system your built up emotional pain – your anger, sadness, fear, guilt and shame, then you are wasting your money and you are wasting your time.
Many therapists mean well, and genuinely desire to help you and want to see you get better, but if your therapist does not have the tools to facilitate in you the releasing of raw emotions, than chances are they have done a ‘ mental learning’ of human nature, or even worse they have studied statistics and other peoples case studies from text books, which the majority of psychologists have as training in university, and they are equipped to only give you ‘advice’ around changing your thinking or behaviour through willpower. If they are not using a technique to facilitate emotional release in you, they have not been trained in one themselves, which means they have most probably not yet done their own long term emotional work yet… This means that they do not have the genuine map to get you out of your emotional maze yet. Simple.
Let’s face it, if all it took was willpower to change, than the world and it’s people would be in a different place and you would have been healed by now and would not even be reading this.
Even the vast majority of ‘ alternative and new age’ healing modalities are like this… A head trip. People avaoiding there emotional pain, stuck in their heads, trying to help other people come out of their heads. Or even worse, people escaping into the energetic/ spiritual realms, so they are even further up than their heads, they are up in the clouds and promising you life change through some ethereal means. The blind cannot heal the blind. Make sure your therapist is grounded and in their body, with a functional material life, successful relationships, in their power, communicating their boundaries and present on this material plane. I have noticed that the best psychics also happen to be the most wounded people, because living up in the angelic, spiritual, energetic realms is the best and most pleasurable escape…believe me, I lived there most of my life. The astral plane, astral travel, Akashic records, chakras, yogic living, ascended masters etc etc. I loved it, and still do. But now I do not use it like a drug to escape the ‘real plane’ and the real issues of self worth, the pain of unmet love and emotional needs from the family, the fear of being present and vulnerable in the face of intimacy…. The pain of being in the body on planet earth. Watch for it – Spiritual Addiction will be named for what it is shortly. A Disease like workaholism which also took a while to be named.
I hope you appreciate that I am not making anyone or anything wrong. Everything really is perfect, everyone is at the perfect place, doing the perfect thing. I am merely trying to shed light on the path for many people who are misled, and end up suffering needlessly for longer than necessary. And I am trying to save you time and money by giving you a guide of what to look for in a therapist and technique. Whether you do your deep inner work with us or someone else is irrelevant, I am speaking to you as fellow human/ friend to fellow human/ friend.
Cathartic Breathwork though, is one of the rare modalities that actually delivers more than it promises. It opens up the emotional pain on the ‘raw emotional level’ and enables you to discharge the electro-magnetic energy charge that keeps the core beliefs alive and running the show. It does this from session #1 onwards.
Come try it with us, you will not be disappointed. It has to be ‘Cathartic’ style Breathwork which has as its main aim the emotional trauma release, not a ‘whatever happens happens…It is all perfect, go with the flow’ aim (less-ness). You need to do it with people who are experienced and trained to use it as a grounded therapy tool with other psycho-therapeutic ‘side techniques’, not a airy fairy, spiritual bliss, meditate & hug, transcend type of approach. Unless that is what you want for now or as a break from ‘therapy’.
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I am Jaan Jerabek, I am the Director of Global Transformative Education – The largest Breathwork Therapy & Training Organization in the Southern Hemisphere. I can be reached on 1300 500 881 or through my websites, www.jaanjerabek.com, www.thedepressionsolution.com or www.teinternational.com.au